As modern, educated, ambitious young women, we should never let a romantic relationship take over our lives. We are independent women and the men we allow into our lives are only there to enrich it, not determine it, and if they leave, so be it…on to the next one!
The previous paragraph, I believe, is the product of wishful thinking and what every well adjusted woman wants to act on. But, can we ever really keep only one foot in our relationships and bounce back after heartbreak and disappointment with the confidence that everything else is going well?
Time and time again I see my friends rest their entire happiness on the status of their romantic relationships, or lack thereof. I am victim to this cycle myself, often determining the state of my well-being on my love life. It is bigger than typical heartache or the thrill of falling in love-it’s a hige imbalance between genders and the rank of our priorities.
It is no mystery that twenty-something girls practice this draining lifestyle, but when is reason going to replace romance? I doubt that the average guy mourns the loss of a short term relationship with hours of analyzing and days of starvation followed by days of ice cream.
How much do you think this imbalance affects our professional lives and general happiness? Do men always have the upper hand outside of the relationship due to less emotional involvement?
These questions are as old as time, but as women become more equal will this kryponite of romantic obsession ever fail to get in our way?